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Estrella M's avatar

I am so excited to have chanced upon this because I’ve been meaning to write a post titled “you’re not invited to my wedding”

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Leonard de Gauche's avatar

Oof this was a good read, but tough. It's awful feeling the dark clouds settling in and see the harm happening to people on a daily basis, and then to see people who don't seem to care or notice. I feel like I am going crazy whenever I am out and everyone just seems to be going about things as though everything is normal; as though there aren't people being sent to concentration camps build on the grounds of an off shore prison that is best known for its human rights abuses. It's just maddening. And then to have people who are close to you ignore the ways you are personally affected, only makes it worse. I went to a wedding late last year and the avoidance of politics was overt. Now I know many of the people there voted for Trump.

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allie ailis's avatar

Thank you so much!! Yes, it is maddening, and I honestly think the groom's family would inject their politics instead of avoid them... which I also do not want any part of. I think found family during these next few months/years is going to be SO important for our mental and emotional needs.

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hanna vignolius's avatar

you ate

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allie ailis's avatar

tysm!! 🙌💕 it was a hard decision but sticking to my morals is so much more important

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whitney sol's avatar

thank you so much for sharing this. “How dare I surround myself with those people. It may be hyperbolic, but it would have been self-harm to continue in that space.” this quote is particularly inspiring to me. i have felt uncomfy in a lot of my friendships without having the courage to put my foot down. but i really like how you prioritize yourself in relationships, every person suffering under this administration needs to do that!

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Indy's avatar

I acted similar when Australia had its votes on marriage equality and the voice- you have to stick to your morals and yes, it’s self care to not surround yourself with people who don’t agree that basic human rights should be upheld. Stand your ground, let them go. You’re on the right side of history.

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